"Something I alluded to in my previous post is that there is a difference between men groping women and women groping men. My experience is not universal, of course, but there is a strong gender bias. The difference, I think, lies mostly in the realm of fear.
When I was molested, my brain quietly did a little calculation, a simple, primal, fight or flight set of sums. The result, I win. If the situation escalates, whether I chose to stand my ground or bolt, in either case, I would easily outmatch my opponent…
I have had many female friends and acquaintances relate stories of being fondled by men. Those tales always include some accounting of fear: fear of physical harm, fear of being unable to stop them if things escalate, fear of reprisal for attempting to fight back. I felt none of that. But being in the situation brought the difference into sharp focus.
This, then, is the major difference I found in being the objectified cosplay cabana boy rather than a similarly barely attired lady, I am not threatened by my assailants. Even when I’m the one being groped, I’m still in the position of power…”
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT EVERYONE SHOULD READ THIS ARTICLE!
I don’t know why Cosplay is not Consent has given off the impression to some that it’s women only but it’s NOT. ANYONE CAN BE SEXUALLY HARRASSED. Just because it’s a big, burly man in cosplay doesn’t make it okay to touch them. Just because they still ‘have the power’ over the situation, that doesn’t make it okay to do anything without their explicit consent.
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